Screen Shot 2015-07-15 at 2.58.32 AM

What is sisterhood?

Screen Shot 2015-07-15 at 2.58.32 AM

Picture via Eugenia Says Instagram (I adore this woman!)

 

I often hear women talking about sisterhood and the importance of supporting one other because we all share one common factor that only we can understand…womanhood.  I would like to think that sisterhood means that we all genuinely love each other as human beings and want the best for each other, but I know that all women do not feel or think this way. Sisterhood is a touchy subject for me.  You may not know this about me, but I read people very well (meaning I can see through the false pretentious talk).

 

 

IMG_6608

 

Return of the Curls Blogger Panel: Beautybylee, Natural Allure, Amberjanielle, me, Naturally Glam, TrendySocialite

 

Being apart of a sisterhood is not an easy task!  It involves staying away from negativity, being friendly, being honest and very transparent.  It is easy to be a sister to someone whom you think can do something for you or that you have a whole lot in common with, but what about the women that you don’t like.  I really don’t have the answer to this question, but I do know that I want all women to succeed (whether I like them or not).  I don’t wish any harm on anybody, that would be sending negative vibes into my own life and I don’t need that. 

 

Over the weekend, I was a guest speaker at Return of the Curls in Hampton, VA.  I have to say that I have been to many events, but this was a turning point in my life as a woman.  You see, I had limited myself from developing new relationships with other women (yes you heard me right).  I can be very sociable, and I meet new people all of the time that I have great conversations with, but I never really allow new people inside.  I actually feel closer to the people that read my blog and that I meet at events more than people that I meet in everyday life whom I may have things in common (with the exception of my family).  I kind of liked it this way for a long time, but I knew it was time for me to change.  To become wise we must keep growing and developing.

 

I was being genuine to my audience, but denying myself the opportunity to really build lasting relationships with other women.  Why may you ask?  Well, I have had some interesting experiences in the past with women.  We are all just a culmination of our past experiences, whether we want to believe it or not.  I was a bit jaded and I didn’t even realize it.  I went into last weekend’s event with the attitude that I was going to get out of my shell and truly allow people to show me who they are without being so leery and judgemental.  I am very close to my sister and even she has inspired me lately by joining a social club for women that she really enjoys.  We are both in sororities, but we tend to be loners when we’re not spending time together.  This made me realize that the act of bonding with other women is truly a necessary part of life that keeps you encouraged and motivated.

 

IMG_6600

 

Chatting it up with some participants of my Blogging Bootcamp Course…cool right!

 

Sisterhood is not just being nice to people that you already know or who are nice to you, it’s about stretching yourself abundantly and trying to understand people who are different from you.  We all have different ways of thinking and different viewpoints and sometimes that can cause conflict, but sisterhood can never thrive in evil, jealousy, competition, or pride.  In the blogosphere that I am deeply immersed in, there are a lot of women and with an exception of a few, I can’t really tell you who is truly genuine from one day to the next, but I can tell you that I met some powerful smart women over the weekend who I think exemplify what it means to be a sister.

 

It’s really not about being buddies or best friends.  It’s truly wanting to see another woman walk in her divine purpose and being willing to support her on that journey.  That is a powerful form of sisterhood!  As I reflect on my interactions with various women at Return of the Curls, I smile thinking about how we exchanged laughs, numbers, and information.  It really does feel amazing to be apart of a sisterhood of women again and that is growth.  

 


  • This post is right on time for me. Past experiences with women have left me jaded as well and I’m always either with my sister or my Mom. I do have associates and I am super nice when meeting new people but like you I don’t let very many people truly in for fear of their motives. I just recently joined a bookclub in my city and I’m hoping it opens the door to me allowing new women into my life and truly learning the meaning of sisterhood outside of the people I truly love or like and interact with daily. Great post!

    • Girl! It is so hard to move on when you have had a couple of bad experiences with women. I am so close to my family, but I know it was time for me to expand my circle a bit. I needed to grow. I am still very cautious, but like you I am taking baby steps…lol Thanks for reading!

  • Yes, yes, and yes! I have a hard time letting people in as well. I’m pretty much the complete opposite in real life than I am on the social media sites. I’m very vocal and welcoming on the internet but in real life I have two best friends and my mom and that’s it. I don’t even really let other family members in like that because I’ve been burned before. I’m trying to get out of my shell and over myself by joining different organizations and going to networking events but first I have to get over my fear of going into new places alone.

    • Yes! I agree overcoming the fear of allowing new people in our life is very freeing! But it is a process for sure!

    • Sabina Mohan

      I feel like your my twin Kesh, cause I’m the same way. I only have a small-knit group of friends and family that I trust.

  • Farida Sued

    Amazing subject! It is important for we women to bond and support each other regardless our difference in character! i mean like you said it does not make a difference if you only bond with those that you relate with or have something to gain from!

  • Waleama Yvette McNeil Granger

    Awesome. I love this. You made some very valid points. Thanks for the share.

  • Kaliha Williams

    This sounds just like me….i wish i was not as leery. I will take the necessary steps to be more open as well. It does not help that i spend most of my time taking care of my ailing mother, after being disappointed by family and friends i went in to my shell and have not left. Slowly but surely i will make a conscious effort to get to know others. Oh!!! I was hurt a great deal in the past and that definitely contributes to my cautious ways….
    hugs and thank you for this post……